I pierced our baby daughter’s ears and my husband’s furious I didn’t ask first’
Sharing her story anonymously, the new mum said that she wanted to get her baby daughter’s ears pierced and so she did so, without consulting her husband, and now he’s mad that he had no say
A woman is locked in a bitter dispute with her husband after she got her baby daughter’s ears pierced without telling him she was going to do so.
Sharing her story anonymously, the new mum said that she had her heart set on getting her daughter’s ears pieces but any time she asked her partner he said he needed to think about it.
When she’d heard that enough times, the woman decided to do it ‘behind his back’, so went out and paid a professional to pierce the youngster’s ears.
But now her husband is furious, saying that she shouldn’t have got them done without him being on board, but the mum is unrepentant and said she’d do it again.
Taking to Reddit, she said: “So far we’ve agreed on every decision made regarding our daughter but the topic of piercing her ears came up and he said he didn’t like the idea.
“He said he needed time to think about it but weeks went by and he hasn’t said okay yet.
“My mum suggested we do it behind his back and he’ll then come around and see for himself that it’s a good thing since he was having doubts and being indecisive. I was hesitant but I agreed and chose a day where he was out all day.
“When my husband got home and found out he lost his temper and went on about what a major breach of trust I just committed and how I should have never decided to do this without him fully agreeing since he’s the parent too.
“He got extra mad that I went behind his back and was being sneaky and untruthful about it.
“I had an argument with him and told him he was acting like this is just his daughter, I’m the mother and my opinion does have a heavier weight than his to some degree.
“He got offended by that and went to stay with his mum who called and berated me for going behind her son’s back and treating him as a less than when it comes to our daughter but I never understood why he thought that.”
The woman shared her story to get advice from other Reddit users but soon she was inundated with comments from people saying she was in the wrong.
One said: “I don’t blame him for being angry. You were definitely ‘sneaky and untruthful’ and then tried to blame your mom for it?
“Also, ‘I’m the mother and my opinion does have a heavier weight than his at some point’. What on earth makes you think this?”
Then a second wrote: “You went behind your husband’s back listening to your mother because you wanted to do what you wanted to do anyway. You know you’d be p****d if he went behind your back listening to his father.”
And a third commented: “It’s a child, not a Christmas tree for you to decorate. And you explicitly went behind your husband’s back for it, too.”